Why cant I get pregnant?

by Amber
(Florida)

I am 24 and i have been trying to have a baby for the past 4 years. I have had two partners and still no hope. I was with one guy for two years and the other for the next two years and neither one of them managed to get me pregnant during our relationships. Why is that? I do have an ovarian cyst, could that be part of the problem?

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Why cant I get pregnant?

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Trying 2
by: Anonymous

My husband and I have been trying too, not for as long - but every time I'm late (a week or more) we are quietly excited and hopeful, just to be crippled with knowledge that I'm NOT. We feel like we have no other options within our means and limits. We don't know what we could be doing wrong etc, etc.

It's hard when we feel if we had children we can give them a very satisfying life compared to some. We have scoured the internet to further educate ourselves on pregnancy...we can relate to you, and for your sake and ours I hope that it happens soon. Best wishes and know there are others in the world with the same difficulties.
Don't stress
by: emilyy

Don't worry it can all happen when you least expect it. My husband & I were trying to have a baby for 3 years & we had gave up trying & just kept going on with our lives... Now I'm actually 4 months pregnant and soo happy. So I think you should wait it out or contact your doctor, it helps if your husband can help be supportive too!
Sorry to hear that
by: sabrina

I'm sorry to hear that. But go see a doctor because they are Professionals and they know everything about pregnancy. That's sad though, so sorry.
You can
by: Anonymous

Hey, even I'm suffering from cysts. I'm 24 but still managed to get pregnant - with the help of doctors. You should consult a lady doctor. The main thing is that you should exercise a lot and drink plenty of water. Don't lose hope. Best of luck.
Please...
by: Anonymous

You need to see your doctor, who can check for fertility issues like blocked fallopian tubes, tipped uterus, etc.

But please... Act responsibly. Don't try to get pregnant unless your partner is on board. It sounds like you didn't say anything to your partners - because if they were aware you were trying to get pregnant, I am sure they, too, would want to be tested for fertility issues. Do not intentionally try to become pregnant without your partners agreement to have a child.

Too many babies are born to unwed mothers. Act responsibly and see your doctor.
Reckless!
by: Anonymous

Trying for two years with two men? Sounds like you're trying to trap a man. See a psychiatrist.
Reassurance
by: Anonymous

I can not say I know how you are feeling but I can say I understand what you are going through.

My wife and I have been 'trying' to get a baby happening for over 2 years. Although not as long as yourself, we have covered all but hormone injections and IVF. With both of us being reasonably healthy, we both assumed an unknown problem was the cause.

My wife has mild polycystic ovaries and we have been reassured by everyone that although this can have an affect, this seems to be detrimental in more severe cases, yet still not preventing conception entirely.

We have visited specialists and respected Natural Health practitioners and no one can give us a definite answer. It is always "try this for this long then come back and see me"... very emotionally draining not to mention the financial and social impact.

Both of us were told by the fertility clinic that we should be breeding happily, but of course, this is still not the case.

As stress can have an amazing impact on one's ability to conceive, a happy and healthy life with as much stress management as possible, has always been encouraged by all professions. This is easier said than done in most respects, yet we are managing to be positive and focus on US to get US through.

Even paying the high cost of IVF carries no promises. So having a loving gal and a caring, supporting guy gives a firm, sound basis to head you in the right direction. But even just being happy in yourself is a great start.

By all means get checked out to ensure you have no health ailments preventing conception. But... Stick with it and always remain positive even when EVERYONE around you is getting pregnant and expanding their families. Ignore the ones who are negative and only pay attention to those who are supportive to you as this will go along way to helping you keep at it.

Now this may be a blokey guy thing to say, ... Don't make it the only focus in your life, however, don't stop trying. :)
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by: Amanda

I feel for you hun, I hope everything is ok for you and the best of luck with getting pregnant. I suggest you see a doctor about it because to be honest only a doctor can tell you...

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